First Date Pitfalls – What Not To Do

OK, so you’ve been chatting for a while now and the two of you seem to be hitting it off. You’ve decided that the time is right to meet in person. Here are some tips for men and women to increase your chances of getting a second date.

  1. Avoid Negativity – Don’t be a downer. We all have baggage, but a first date is not the the appropriate time to bring it up. Don’t talk about what a loser your ex is, your problems at work or disputes with your family. Be positive. Focus on the moment and the person in front of you. Who knows where it might lead.
  2. Don’t Talk About Commitment – A first date is just that, a first date, a chance to get to know each other. Maybe it will lead to something else, maybe it wont. Don’t make premature assumptions about the future and especially avoid talk about marriage and children. If things work out and a relationship does develop, these topics will come up naturally in time.
  3. Limit Your Alcohol Consumption – This is not to say that you should avoid alcohol completely. A drink or two might actually be good thing. It can help you and your date relax and get over that first date awkwardness.  Just don’t go overboard and end up doing or saying things you will regret.
  4. Dress Appropriately – This applies to both men and women. Guys don’t wear running shoes with dress pants. Ladies, leave a little to the imagination. Its OK to wear clothing that flatters your figure, but if your boobs are falling out of your dress, perhaps you are showing a little too much cleavage. There is a fine line between sexy and trashy. Also dress appropriately for the occasion. High heels might not be the best choice for an outdoor sporting event. Likewise unless your date is at the gym sweat pants are rarely a good fashion choice. Above all wear something that is comfortable and makes you feel confident.
  5. Focus On Your Date – Smart phones are great, but sometimes you need to put the phone down and focus on face to face communication. Don’t phone or text your friends,  while on a date. Likewise for social media. Leave the Twitter and Facebook updates for later.  The same goes for distractions of the non electronic variety.  Do not schmooze with business acquaintances and don’t ignore your date if friends drop by.  Finally try not to let your eyes rove when someone hot enters the room.
  6. Don’t Get Hung Up On “Dating Rules” – Don’t take these or any other dating rules too seriously. None of these rules are written in stone. They are guidelines. Don’t fret over them. Many dating advice gurus  emphasize the importance of making a great first impression. One went so far as to liken a first date to a job interview and that if you say the wrong thing you’ll blow your chance.  Chill.  Don’t get so would up in making a first impression that you are stiff,  self-conscious and afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. Be yourself and have fun. If it happens it happens.
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